We are human beings, and human beings make mistakes. It is much more prevalent when two human beings are connected together in a relationship.
We as humans are social creatures that cannot survive alone, well we can but we sure don’t want to have to! It is only natural for each person to look for their significant other and share their life with them. Often happiness is attributed to love, and it is indeed one of the most beautiful feelings anyone can ever experience. Love has inspired heroes, created villains, and even started wars! It is such a beautiful feeling that makes the lover an unstoppable force.
Despite its beauty and power, love overtakes the mind and sometimes mistakes are made. We as human beings have been blessed with a powerful consciousness and a capable intellect which is challenging to master on our own. Being in a relationship increases this difficulty exponentially and makes life complicated. It is only with a lot of hard work and mutual sacrifice that love can grow without suffocating its hosts.
That being said, relationships do end and hearts do get broken, but sometimes that is the mistake!
You broke up
The phrase ‘break up’ is such an accurate one; a breakup literally breaks things inside our thoughts and perceptions, it forces us to face a harsh reality that will change who we are forever. A breakup is the breaking of paradigms, beliefs, feelings and plans. It is important to not think of a breakup as the end of the world, but an important turning point. Many couples break up for good, but many others recover. Getting back together with your ex is not always a must; after all there was a reason so powerful that it made you reach this point. It is not necessarily the point of no return, but it is a point of choice!
Look around you
When a breakup occurs, it is a direct result of a problem that was bigger than what bound you together, and the real question here is whether or not this problem is really critical or is there a way that was not seen in the midst of all the sadness, frustration and anger.
A breakup is when you should look around you very intuitively; look behind you at your time together, evaluate it and identify its ups and downs, think about what brought you together, think about what memories you created together and what dreams you shared together. Think about the times you were upset and what caused it, think about what you fought about and how you treated each other when things got tough. The purpose is not to be overcome with nostalgia or to fill your heart with sadness, but to evaluate your time together and be sure that this relationship is what you want, and know why you want it. Look ahead of you, and look at your futures alone and your future together.
Be careful, be objective and do not let your feelings overtake you! A breakup is a major warning sign, and it must be given the attention and thought it deserves. What you find in the end may not be what you want, but it is what is right for you. Be prepared to compromise, to admit your mistakes, to stand up for your needs and put the needed effort to become one.
Once you have figured it all out and you can see clearly why breaking up was a mistake, it will drive you to win them back and they will feel the effort you have put into keeping your relationship and future alive.
Communication is only effective if you have something to say, and a strong belief in why you two should be together, a belief that you know they will share once they hear, that is if they don’t already share it deep inside, is the strongest thing you can use to bring you back together with the love of your life! You can even text your ex back if you're creative!